Flashback!! “Diary of a Brown Girl”

So back when I had my blog at blogspot, I wrote a blog entitled “Diary of a Brown Girl”. It’s one of my favorite to date. I just wanted to share with you all. Hope you enjoy and leave your thoughts!!

This post is going to be a little personal but I feel it is very relevant to things I have been seeing and hearing lately. You know what, not even lately. It’s more like all my life. I just recently have come to terms with what I consider is beautiful. I will even go as far as to say I’ve just recently within the past two years become more comfortable in my own skin.
Growing up my family always told me I was pretty and up to a certain age I believed them. Then I hit the teenage, “growing into myself” phase. When you live in a society that embraces “good hair”, lighter skin, small facial features, and small frames, and you don’t have ANY of that…you start to second guess yourself. I’m brown skin (in the summer super dark), big nose, big teeth, chinky eyed girl with a big round head,and fat cheeks. I didn’t know what standard of beauty I fit. As a matter of fact, I didn’t think I fit any standard of beauty and the world around me seemed to support my thought process.
Now I am a 21 year old young woman and I actually do consider myself to be attractive and my self esteem is pretty high. Yet even now, I STILL am confronted with my standards of beauty. On numerous occasions I have been the exception to guys, “light skin” rule. And in my head I’m thinking, “so I guess only light skin girls can be insightful, down to earth, friendly, (and whatever else they like)”. I guess if your brown skin/dark skin you’re automatically knocked of the desirable list. I have even had a distant cousin come to me and say, “wow, I have a dark skin cousin…..AND SHE’S PRETTY!!”. What does that even mean?!
And it’s horrible because children are the first to pick up on these things! As a young girl I loved Beyonce but had to play Kelly because I was dark skin and my friend was light skin. Let’s not even consider the fact that I was the only one that could sing. An example of how to a kid, the skin color takes precedence over talent. Times are changing but still this seems to be a problem still around.
I personally believe that every skin color is beautiful and should be embraced. I embrace my tan in the summer and refuse to be ashamed. It gets under my skin how even in the media “light is right” and “black is wack”. That probably wasn’t the best saying but I think you can get the over all effect of what I mean.
What do you think about society’s standard of beauty and it’s affect on the world around us?

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About selectivelysocial

My name is Kiera and I am a 24 year old Virginia Beach native currently in Charlotte, NC. Can't guarantee you'll agree but these are the thoughts of an outgoing introvert.

Posted on December 16, 2012, in Family, Relationships, Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Not that you necessarily care about what some random blogger guy thinks, but I’m going to tell you anyway: What the entertainment media/marketing/advertising people say is beautiful is NOT what real men find beautiful. I don’t find skinny, surgically enhanced, runway models the least bit attractive, and neither do any of my male friends or other men I’m close enough to to have that conversation. In fact, I’ve never ever heard a man say he likes skinny models. I think rock stars date skinny models because they think they should, not because they want to. You absolutely should have good self-esteem because you are a beautiful woman.

    I’m not trying to be a creepy weirdo (though I guess I can’t do anything about it if you think I am one!). I’m married and have a family. I’m just giving you a general heterosexual male perspective.

    Yeah, I know I’m being presumptuous (i.e., that your feelings of attractiveness hinge on what men think). But that’s the only perspective I can offer. As for your skin tone, embrace it. Trust me, there’s nothing awesome about trying shorts on for the first time in the spring and having your legs look whiter than printer paper.

  2. Thank you and I definitely appreciate your comment. I definitely understand that a lot of guys don’t have the same standards of beauty as what the media says. However between music, reality tv, and the current stars of today I’d be a lie if I said I didn’t see how these could get into the psyche of women; young and old. I definitely appreciate your perspective!

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